Close, but not quite

Me, revealing to Mago details about a toy he got from his friend for his birthday:

Oh, I think this helicopter is the main bad guy’s. See it has a cobra logo on it.  The main bad guy in G.I. Joe is named Cobra.

What does he do?

I don’t really remember.  Probably try to take over the world, which is kind of funny.

Why is it funny?

Oh.. there’s this cartoon called Animaniacs, with two mice that scientists do experiments with; these mice live in a science lab.  One of them is an evil genius, and the other is an innocent goofball.

What’s an innocent goofball?

That means he’s wacky and he doesn’t know what’s going on.  But every episode, the evil genius mouse does something to try to take over the world, to control the whole world, and it never works, something always goes wrong.

Later, Mago, already a fan of a cartoon he’s never seen (whoops! – on my part), relays this to Tia (who of course already knows all this, but is indulging Mago):

.. and one of them is an evil genius! – and the other is a hideous pitball!

Mago at 5

[This is Alex, transcribing a choice entry from a hand-written journal Tia has been keeping about Mago.]

Mago’s 5 now!

Mago – “I got a dinosaur toy from [a friend]!”
Nem-nem – “You got teddy bear cookies for your party!”
Mago – “I got an alien sleeping bag! I had a transformer birthday party!”

I’m trying to get him to talk about his cake, but he’s blowing a paper towel across the table and making Nem-nem laugh. “Chaotic”, he says. Now he’s making monkey noises and climbing on the table.

More mouses, please

1. About a week ago while Tia was out on an errand with the kids (I was home alone), I crossed the hall into the kitchen, and when I arrived, I heard a small, high, but loud “EEEK!”, and in the same instant a smallish brown blob (for all I could see) darted from the wall above the stairs very fastly past my boots and made a BANG sound thumping into the folding door in front of the dryer – but that was the last I could see of the mouse.

When I told Tia, she made sure the traps were still set (they needed resetting).  We caught the mouse a few days later, and released him the same as the first.  I was going to bring the video camera for this but discovered its battery needed recharging, so I couldn’t capture the event.  However, it wasn’t as exciting – the mouse was larger, dark brown, and moved more like a squirrel – again past my boots on escape, only much more slowly.  Since it was slow I wonder if it was the same mouse I heard shriek ..

Mouse

About a week ago Tia saw, late at night, a mouse run around the corner of the bed and toward a wall.  We turned over everything we reasonably could at a late hour (in our tiredness) but didn’t find the mouse.

So the next day she bought some humane mousetraps, a type that merely shuts a door on its prisoner instead of smashing its brains out.

(I shudder – never mind such traps are far easier and less disgusting to manage.)

Over the next few days the kids eagerly awaited the capturing of mice (Nem: “More mouses, please”).  One morning Tia found a trap set off, but it seemed so light, and the traps had previously been set off without capturing anything, so she opened the trap door to reset it – and a mouse scurried out and ran and hid in a corner, behind and under some things.   She managed then to trap the mouse in a shoebox, which she taped shut.

We set off to Rock Canyon, the kids very eager to see the mouse as we would release it into the wild.

I videotaped this release, which (edited) footage follows, with some walking and playing with the kids afterward.  After the mouse’s escape Tia asked me if I’d captured footage of  something particular (and very remarkable) about it on tape.  I hadn’t noticed, and thought I hadn’t captured it.  But it certainly showed in the lens and on the camera’s video display.  I only noticed by playing it back frame by frame, and for only six frames (at the frames per second rate multiplied by 5, and to put it more technically, that something like the “blink of an eye“).

You may also miss it on the first pass – this render will repeat the surprise in slow motion.  Here is a still – please only show this after watching the video. [spoiler](Link to image file)[/spoiler]

(It also starts off with a relevant silly clip from a video game I played when I was a kid – exported from an emulator.)

For a higher quality video click the link that says “play in new window” after “(hifi)”.

Admiration and comprehension

At potty time, Nem-nem, making a situational comparison, declares of her absent brother, simply:

Nin-an. Poop. Big.

I tell Nem I’ll be right back, go to her brother’s room where he is settling in for bed time, and only repeat this as it was spoken; it is immediately understood. Mago bursts into fits of giggles, Tia laughs.

As Nem is later getting ready for bed, she babbles, and Mago, trying for Nem’s attention but failing, recites “facts” rather like the exaggerated ones we hear about fish..

Ah, these are the things that get at a father’s heart, stirring imaginations of a child’s future accomplishments..

Meanwhile, back at the church..

This afternoon as we drove home from church (I was at the wheel), Tia asked the kids about their Sunday School lessons.  She asked Nem (who is 2 years old at this writing) what her lesson in Nursury was about.  In reply Nem babbled something that sounded to me as if it had the words “hands” and “pencil” in it – drawing? – but Tia and I don’t understand.  Tia runs a check:

Tia: Did you talk about Jesus?
Nem: Yes.
Tia: Did you talk about families?
Nem: Yes.
Tia: Did you talk about hippopotumuses?
Nem: (a bit incredulously) No.

sube

Me: (looking at a coloring template printout from the internet) ‘Sube?’
Tia: What?
Me: It says ‘sube’. Llama – home.. high mountains. Favorite food.. grass. Movement.. climb, sube.
Tia: Hmm..
Me: Maybe that’s a kind of movement?
Tia: Oh, it’s probably Spanish.
Me: But there’s no other Spanish word on here.
Tia: Welcome to the genius of those who create Dora.

Many from Mago and Nem

With this entry I’m posting at a (sub-domain of) a new domain. Previously this blog was at alexandtia.com/Ussins – now it is here at home.ussins.org – please update your bookmarks/feeds/what have you. I’ve been listing extended family blogs (for a blogroll) – I probably don’t have them all. (And many galleries and links here need fixing/updating.)

Again, I haven’t been doing justice to Nem-nem at this blog, and am guilty of 2nd Child Syndrome.

Last evening we hiked a little up Rock Canyon – at the Lake Bonnevile trail on the north – and passed a small cave off the trail. I made a monster sound, and Nem-nem looked toward the cave a bit fearfully and said “Ee-oo”. I’d never heard that, and Tia told me it means “Scary.”

Nem-nem rages when she doesn’t want to go to bed (which is most nights), stuck in her crib – screaming, blubbering, and calling after “Ma-ma” – or, if it’s been several hours and she’s past desperation, “Da-da”. (As second pick, I suppose I’m simultaneously flattered and jealous.)

She’s going to climb right over the rail any day (as Mago did around that age), and has climbed out several times by propping up on furniture just outside the bars (which furniture is no longer adjacent to the crib). When we’ve accidentally left the crib rail down, Nem-nem has slept on a mattress outside the crib, or on the recliner in the room. On a recent night at about two AM she opened our door, wandered across the room, and said simply and clearly, “Hi.” – and then climbed into our bed and quickly fell back asleep.

Several months ago – and I forgot to write it – I was lying on a couch reading, and Nem-nem decided I needed some company. She went and retrieved several plush toys and a doll, and arranged them around my head and put the doll in my arms.

Also, here’s a back-post (link) of a recording of Nem-nem and I which I’d made and readied, but hadn’t put up, in January.

The next two from Mago I’m slightly adapting from notes by Tia.

At his birthday party, before blowing out the candles on his cake, with all his neighborhood friends around him, Mago wished in a breathless voice: “I wish this day would last forever.”

A few nights ago at tucking in time, he asked Tia: “Is there too much cuddliness in the whole world?” He then talked about how he loved cuddly things.

This morning:

Mago: Did you know you can have as many pairs of arms as you want?
Me: How?
Mago: Ask Jesus! I want three pairs of arms!

This afternoon:

Me: I don’t want playing Pikmin to be the only thing I play with you today. I want to play something else.
Mago: We can play a game I made up.
Me: What’s that?
Mago: Bomb’s Up.
Me: How do you play that?
Mago: You put a bomb magnetic on a spring, and it goes up in a hole in the ceiling, and it devaporates into a food that you want.

(You can see how this is inspired by video games. Destroy something and it will turn into a reward.)

That’s a small sample. His imagination has explosively expanded. He’s become a big fan of Pokémon after Tia disclosed to him a Pokémon blanket I’d owned before we were married (yes, as an adult – you get the picture), which had been obscured by a heavy quilt covering. A poster of Pokémon I’d gotten from Electronic Gaming Monthly has also been adopted by him (now laminated, to prevent destruction by young children and toddlers). He learns their names, now watches Pokémon cartoons, plays Pokémon on my old Game Boy hand-held console (and begs both of us to find in-game stores etc. for him), has pretend battles, and does paper crafts (which means he compels his parents to create them).

About a year ago, maybe (or more), I first devised “Pirates and Wizards” as a game to play with him – which, though I had broader ambitions for the game, Mago strictly reduced to pretending to blast each other with pistols and/or fire and/or lighting. (And persisted at this over months and years until he forgot the origin, and would only pretend to blast you, often.) Now he plays it with Nem-nem, who does not necessarily know what guns, fire and lighting are – but if you point at her and make a blast sound, she’ll do a squealing scream, keeling over.

When Mago is very unruly or troublesome at bed-time, or in general if a standard “time out” isn’t really doing the job, he gets strapped into his baby seat in the car in the garage. He really hates it – but it does him no harm – so it works; I’m usually the only one who can pull it off because Tia hates the expense of wrestling him on the way. So when Nem-nem is in a bed-time fuss or rage Tia asks her if she wants the same. “Uh-huh”, always comes the eager reply – and out to the baby seat goes Nem – except that she likes it. Calms her right down and she goes to sleep. I guess she figures it’s what big brother does, so that’s her way to feel like a big girl.

(So rebellion is growing up. Well, that’s just great.)

Video: Nemmy and Mago, September 2008

Despite wanting to post so many other videos and never getting around to it, I couldn’t hold this back from the web.  Maybe the first four minutes are slow (I like them, obviously, and that is correct – that thar is a Commodore 64 my family is playing), but you won’t regret watching this to the end, to see Nemmy.

Also, regarding the previous entry, Tia told me she had meant to mention the pictures of Mago in his pumpkin t-shirt – those photos are by me.

Click the small link below that says “Play in popup” (because the video frame is too large to be in the blog layout inline – and I haven’t come up with another solution yet).  If you have trouble you may need the Flash player (link).

2nd

Late last night I made too much sound in the hallway closing a door and I think it woke up Nem-nem.  Maybe that isn’t what woke her up, I don’t know.

Her distress cry didn’t die down; it got worse.  We let her cry for a very long time and finally thought we’d try calming her.  I changed her diaper and it calmed her, and I realized half way through that it didn’t need changing.  It didn’t calm her for very long.  We tried to soothe her and help her get back to sleep and she got angrier.  Eventually she was in angry hysterics and we tried addressing many possibilities – hunger? – wanting to sleep in our bed? – rocking? – thirst? – wanting her blanket and doll? – needing a massage? – just leaving her alone again in her crib for a long time? – nothing worked.

Finally I decided to try to take her on a car drive and play lullabies from my iPod.  No change – still angrier.  After maybe half an hour driving she began settling down, after she’d fussed and fidgeted with her blanket for a long time, and apparently got it the way she wanted.  Her anger settled to fatigued, heartbreaking whimpers.  Then she was quiet for a good five minutes.  Until she started mildly whimpering again.  I thought she had finally fallen asleep; apparently not.

I thought she might want help spreading her blanket over herself, because with all her fussing with it she’d managed to get it fairly well spread out (after first kicking it off and rejecting it several times).  So I pulled to the side of the road and went to her car seat to help her with that, but when I spread the blanket further over her, she got very angry again.

Then it clicked for me.  If we try to feed her at meal time she gets upset.  She wants to use the spoon herself, or use her hands, without our help.  With the blanket now this was the same thing.  She’s not getting enough recognition for her independent learning, not getting enough sense of accomplishment and admiration from us for all that she does and learns by herself.  Mago got plenty of that – every new milestone was a marvel for us, because we were witnessing the growth of our own baby for the first time.  Even being aware that parents tend to not do this with their second or subsequent children, and making sure she’ll have plenty of video tape and photos of herself as a baby (as second children often don’t), I’ve overlooked the marvels of her progress, of what she learns and does.

Realizing all that at that moment, I told her I’m sorry; she can arrange the blanket herself, and told her she’d done a good job.  I started talking to her about how mom and dad are proud of how much she’s learning and doing, that she’s a big girl, that she does so many things by herself and is learning so much, and that we’re so happy to have her and watch her learn and grow – and with this kind of talk she calmed right down.  She knew exactly what I was saying.

When I got back home she got angry when I picked her up out of her car seat and wrapped the blanket around her.  I said she can wrap the blanket around herself, and I’ll put her in her crib and she can go to bed by herself.  Again she calmed right down.

When we got to her crib she was still wide awake, but I told her she can put herself to sleep, and she went back into her crib and let me leave the room without any complaint, and there was no further complaint the rest of the night – she was probably back to sleep within minutes.

There are several entries Tia and I have wanted to write, about Mago and Nem-nem – I fear the memories may be leaving 🙁

Nem-nem still babbles delightfully, and the babble is becoming more nuanced and expressive.  It often seems there is some clear meaning I’m missing if I only knew the language.  She’ll often mix in, when she’s upset, our names: “Ma-ma-ma-ma-ma-ma!” or “Da-duh-da-da-da-da-da-deh-da-da!..”

Sign language signs she knows, or things she has words for:

Bear, cougar, lion, tiger (a low, nasal grunt)

Cat

Flower (exhales in imitation of sniffing)

Dog (pants and sticks out tongue like a dog)

Water

Elephant (she makes the same sign for a giraffe)

Frog

Bird/Duck

Light

Tree

Horse (does a lip-flapping noise)

Cow (moos)

Baby

Insect/Fly (Makes a buzzing sound)

Probably others I’m forgetting.. I owe it to her to keep a list going for a while 🙂

Walking and utterances, sleep talking

Nem-nem for a while has been learning to walk, and has abandoned crawling and walks pretty well by now.

I took her for a walk recently down the same place where Mago used to visit the deer lawn ornaments (we still do sometimes) which I swear I’ve written about but can’t seem to find the entry.. hope it’s still there.. anyway I took her for a walk. On the walk she pointed to a tree and signed “bird”, and when we passed flowers, she scrunched her lips and nose together and exhaled sharply, to imitate sniffing: this is her own sign for “flower”. I set her on the sidewalk to examine some purple daisies in someone’s yard, and she batted them, and when they bounced on their stem she laughed. Then she noticed some ants and stooped down to examine them, and she did this short low sort of raspy grunt. It’s her word for “creature”: she does this for bugs, dogs, animals she sees on TV etc.

The other day she looked at me from her car seat while I was outside the car, and she called: “Dada”. I pointed at her and said “Baby”. She smiled and did the sign for baby: holding one hand on the other elbow and cradling her arms back and forth.

Tia tells me the other day when they went to a playground, Nem-nem said “play”, and the other day she said “doll” when handed a doll. This morning we read a muppet babies book, and seeing baby Kermit she made the sign for frog: hold the back of your hand on your chin and curl three fingers down and up several times.

Mago has amused us with more things he says in his sleep. Tia heard these ones:

In the way a child declares small facts like having visited Denver, importantly:

I’m someone’s brutha!..

Then in a sing-song sort of way going up on the second word, he continued:

Whatch’your name?

Recently I put his blanket back on him at night and he said:

You’re the nice fishy.

Another night I put his blanket back on him and he stirred and urgently whined in alarm:

You’re underwater!

The other night I just went and held him while he was asleep. In his sleep he instinctively tried to put his arm around my neck, but it just kind of flopped up to the side of my neck and he couldn’t get it far around. After I stayed there for a while he whined in his sleep:

I can’t reach you!

So I let his arm drop and I put his plush monkey (Millie) in his arms.